From Our Mailbox
A selection of letters from our mailbox
August 20, 2020:
A Modest Proposal
By Anonymous
With apologies to Jonathan Swift
Joe Biden has just chosen his running mate, Kamala Harris, and I am inspired! Joe wants to make his administration to look like America, and I could not agree more. Who wouldn’t – maybe just the few eat-their-heart-out-hate-everybody malcontents. With Pamela Harris, Biden hit the trifecta of constituencies -- women, Asians and Blacks. But he has missed an important one…
To this end, I suggest that instead of the various names that have been suggested, boy lovers, girl lovers, minor attracted persons (MAPs) and even "vicious" – I meant "virtuous" -- pedophiles we proudly call ourselves “Perverts” with a capital “P”. Now wait, I know what you’re thinking, but please follow my argument to its logical conclusion.
Proudly owning a pejorative is not new. Black young men do it. They call each other the “N” word all the time. I know, because I hear it constantly in the college gym. But woe should a white guy do the same. I am a white guy. You can be sure that I never do that. But should we proudly adopt “Pervert” we will be sharing it with such a large population that there will be no need to be selfish about who uses the “P” word.1
I hope you don’t think I am kidding. Perverts form an immense constituency of which we are but a small part. Perhaps that constituency is not yet as large as the Moral Majority but it is quickly gaining ground. Just look at one recent president and a current one. Having your dick sucked, even by someone you were married to, it would fall under some sort of act against nature. Wouldn’t it? And unsolicited grabbing someone’s pussy should also qualify.
Nixon once said, “When the president does it, that means it is not illegal." So maybe Clinton and Trump are not perverts. But let’s not just stop there. We have Supreme Court Justices on our side. One famously questioned a woman he supervised as to the provenance of a coke can with a genital hair on it and another sexually assaulted a fellow teenager. Mere allegations, you say? I believe the accusing women! Why shouldn’t I? We do all believe the children who never, never lie. Accomplished women deserve no less.
That only makes four perverts you tell me, but wait! We have only begun to scratch the surface. Let’s forget for a moment all the politicians claiming to need to spend more time with their families or repentant megachurch preachers.
I looked up “common human perversions” on Google. Of course, I then immediately deleted my searches. No one wants anyone to think that he is into these things. You wouldn’t believe what came up. There were pictures too! I am too embarrassed to describe them. But sites I checked and that had real people with real PhDs explaining it to me left me assured that barring perhaps Mother Theresa or the Pope but certainly barring Jesus, just about everyone shared a cherished perversion.
So, even if Joe Biden and Pamela Harris want an administration that looks like America, I still have not made up my mind on who to vote for. It would be hard to believe that Republicans do not also look like America, at least when it comes to perversions.
P.S. If you are still not convinced that owning a pejorative is a genius move, think of the Christian Cross. Before its adoption, it symbolized for Romans the complete and utter destruction of a human being with his remains to be food for carrion animals. I say, the worse the pejorative the better the symbol!
[Note from Eric: I am not inclined to resurrect or repurpose the term, "pervert," to mean something positive. I'm not at all sold on that concept. For one thing, it doesn't directly challenge the hatred that that term is loaded with and stupid people will think that we accept the worst connotations with which it is associated. I really think we should stick with "boylover." It is the purest, most honest, distillation of the reason for our movement.]
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Dear NAMBLA,
I'm doing it! I came out via social media as not only a child lover, but as a supporter of decriminalization of adult-minor relationships. It hasn't reached everyone, but it will soon enough. I can be open and vocal about my opinions in school- yes, there is the possibility of backlash and harm, but it's something I'm willing to risk. (For context, I'm a 14 year old living in the south.)
That aside, I'm emailing to ask you something. As well as it may be, the prospect of writing at my school, I want to do more. I want to try my best organize something like a march or protest of some sort in my area.
I know this will be difficult due to a lack of support where I live, however, I need to start somewhere. I want your advice on how I can make this happen. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
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Hi guys,
Hope you are all well. I am always happy to see new activity on the NAMBLA website. You guys are awesome and thank you for keeping it going.
I am also happy to see that you gave "Kenny" a place to write about his hopeful outlook. I believe that a little bit he is suffering from some hopelessness as some middle paragraphs incite people do things with disregard to their personal safety, and I believe this could be symptomatic of hopelessness overdrive if I may put it that way.
I do believe that we suffer from defeatism and I hope that we all have the courage to overcome that. Kenny says "I hope I'll manage to help some of you understand the necessity there is to defeat our defeatism." I see that a lot on BC. Some posters put the defeat in defeatism. That's not how we are going to move forward.
I think in him being vocal like this it is showing a generational shift from the older attitude to the new one. He is using words like MAP which we never used.
I am so glad you gave him a platform to speak his truth on NAMBLA. All the power to him.
Thank you Kenny for firing us up to look forward rather than backwards and thank you guys for letting Kenny write this.
Have a good day.
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Hello.
I wanted to ask if there is a telegram channel of nambla or similar channels to share and express yourself?
Kind regards
[Eric: Is there any interest among our members in a Telegram channel or a podcast? ]
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Hello! I am an underage boy, and even though i never met one of you, i am very happy someone actually advocates for me (and other underages) being able to make our own choices. I want to be heard, not only seen. Thanks, and i really hope NAMBLA suceeds. Bye!
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July 4, 2020:
This is a story of who I am:
I believe that it is important to live my life to the fullest. It is not easy when I am a boylover as I have to endure the unjust and skewed view of society. It corners me so that I start believing that I am unworthy of love, not only of boys but also of everyone. It leaves a very harsh impression on me that I carry with me. Unfortunately, this manifested itself in suicidal ideations and wanting to kill myself so that I don't see people gain victory over me and force me to be someone I am not. This experience in isolation continues to be very scarring for me.
Since I am left with few options I decided that I wanted to do something about my situation. I was trapped and being suffocated by society, so I decided that I wanted to tell people who I was and see what their reaction was.
I thought that the best approach was to do this in a very controlled way. First I would talk about my orientation to my closest friends and maybe then to my family and then I will finally tell the world that I am a complete person and I have been here all along but now they had to recognize me as I want. Not the least easy.
So I talked to my friend about my orientation. I told her that I was a boylover, attracted to young boys. All in all her reaction was normal but she had a whole host of questions. I tried to accommodate as many as I could but there are so many of them that this is turning out to be a process that we both will live through. It is exciting.
I explained to her that I view sexual orientation as age dependent rather than the way homosexuals thought of it as gender dependent (I do ascribe to the homosexual model as I am a male attracted to boys). I explained how I feel that people are born with varying degrees of age-of-attractions, and mine falls into the 7 -13 year old boys interval. I also explained that now it is not easy as if she decides to tell someone about my sexual orientation I might end up in jail. It was important for me to explain to her how I wanted to keep this between us.Her questions revolved around the idea that I would force myself onto boys and I assured her that this was not something that I would do. One of the things that she was hung up on was how compatible my adult brain would be with that of a child. At the time I was not able to respond to that and the closest I was able to offer was Oscar Wilde's defense of his love:
"The Love that dare not speak its name" in this century is such a great affection of an elder for a younger man as there was between David and Jonathan, such as Plato made the very basis of his philosophy, and such as you find in the sonnets of Michelangelo and Shakespeare. It is that deep, spiritual affection that is as pure as it is perfect. It dictates and pervades great works of art like those of Shakespeare and Michelangelo, and those two letters of mine, such as they are. It is in this century misunderstood, so much misunderstood that it may be described as the "Love that dare not speak its name," and on account of it I am placed where I am now. It is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it. It is intellectual, and it repeatedly exists between an elder and a younger man, when the elder man has intellect, and the younger man has all the joy, hope and glamour of life before him. That it should be so, the world does not understand. The world mocks it and sometimes puts one in the pillory for it."
I wanted to cherish this moment with her for a long time. It was not easy telling her about me but I did. We have created a whole new human connection between us and that is what was really important. I wanted her to ask as many questions to me as possible as I know that she would get her information from untrustworthy sources. I was the best source to answer these questions.
I don't know how this would play out. We have yet to build on this. What was important is that I have discovered a whole new plane into which to expand my friendship with her. I was proud, although scared, and I wanted to explain that boylove exists and it manifests itself in me.
I was facing a dire future and I wanted to do something about it.
Today I walk a little taller, I fill my space more and I am happy to do things that I was planning on doing for a while.
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Hello!
Am 25, living in Croatia. Maybe you're surprised by my message — I'm a man-lover. I discovered your organisation's existence in 2013.
Since I was 7, I knew I am attracted to men. Last year, I contacted editor of the magazine "Ethos"; I found "Boy Wiki" in 2018, after watching documentary about sex abuse hysteria in the USA. NAMBLA was mentioned, and I did research on the female psychiatrist, "nemesis of NAMBLA". I don't believe into Satanic abuse.
I believe in the positive approach to human body, discovering sexuality's beauty. As a young boy, aged 12, I enjoyed looking at beautiful artworks depicting men. Growing healthy, I wasn't abused/maltreated. Attraction towards men appeared naturally, although I didn't reveal that until last year, first to "Ethos" editor. Later, I told my friend ("lover"), who's 57.
Is my message unbeliveable? I'd like to share my experience. Maybe it can help other youths to understand their sexuality.
My philosophy views violence's only purpose in self-defense — so, abusing anyone is contrary to my worldview. Can 13-years old boy, mature enough, enjoy with the male friend aged 40, discovering life's many aspects, including sexual (consensual)? Guessing you know my answer! :-)
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Man boy love is sacred
I remember being 14 years old and craving attention, not just attention from anyone, but a attention from a man. My father was in the navy and would be deployed 6-12 months at a time leaving me with just my mother. I remember wanting to feel so close to an older man to learn how to be a man and experience the world around me.
At 14 I sought out the company of men my fathers age or older on Craigslist, posting pictures promising whatever favors I needed to do to feel in the presence of a man and male bond. Men came to me easily I was/ am still very attractive white blond man. I couldn't get enough of the bonding.
I loved everything those men offered me. Warmth, comfort, intimacy, affection, love, it all made me feel so satisfied like I knew what my life purpose was, to bond with men and boys.
i am 24 now and cherish the memories of being a boy and one day want to meet a boy to bond with.
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Hello!
I am from a Russian MAP community. We decided to mark Day of Remembrance and Solidarity with victims of pedophobia at July 14 in 2020 year. (At this day in 2013 year Bijan Ebrahimi was murdered due public hatred of pedophiles.)
You can read more about this here:
https://right-to-love.name/node/629
https://right-to-love.name/node/637
I think you may be interesting in it.
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To whom it may concern,
I was wondering if you all have ever considered loving little "midget" people/ dwarfs. I know the term midget is politically incorrect but you don't seem have issues with pedophilia so I thought why not. So seriously wouldn't it be legally preferable to make love to consenting adults that mimic children? This is not a joke or meant to be insulting I would really like to know if it ever comes up for a vote.
I in no way condone boy love or pedophilia of any kind but am just curious if this has ever come up as an option.
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Hi. I am a gay 14 year old living in New Jersey. I tried writing this to *****@yahoo.com however it seems his email is down. [Ed: member now deceased] I really hope this email works because I am extremely interested in writing for NAMBLA. Many people seem to think Boy Love is in the interest of the man but they fail to see that the boy loves the relationship. It is sad that today a loving, nonviolent relationship is illegal. I am wondering if their is an interest in me writing for the website offering my perspective. I am also wondering what the extent of what I can write is. I want to know what is too graphic. The boy love movement is losing support and NAMBLA is the only chance at turning that around!
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Hello I am considering a membership with your group as a way of exploring part of my life I've felt obligated to neglect. Always felt wrong to allow myself freedom of expressing this inner truth. But, after much prayers, I believe I owe myself an opportunity to understand it and others like me who share those same beliefs. I do feel like our ideologies are compatible. My only fear is opening a can of worms that I'll never be able to close because I refuse to allow any natural urge control over what I have worked so hard to protect through my life. That's what scares me. But I don't want to hate myself anymore for what I believe in my heart to be beautiful. All I want is acceptance, understanding, & forgiveness. I feel like our community is so vulnerable, we really do need each other. Read that ur also taking submissions of written material to use as content on the site, which I would consider contributing to. A lot on my mind to discuss that was buried deep down inside for so long. I'd be willing to share my perspective if it helps. What would my membership consist of exactly? Must admit I'm nervous about this. But don't wanna do this alone anymore. Do you genuinely believe I belong on here?
Thank you for your time & creating this for our people
God bless
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Hello, I am writing to hopefully find a contact in my New England area. I am leery of writing this email due to the stigma in our society about this area of interest. I am a 69 year old trying to talk with someone with the same interests as me to perhaps find some kinship. I would appreciate finding someone close to communicate our feelings. Perhaps you can guide me a bit. I am not yet comfortable enough to join NAMBLA due to my paranoia. Thank you . You have great courage
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